Bridal Shower Etiquette: Guests pay their own way?

Q: We're planning on having the bridal shower at a local restaurant. Is it okay if the guests pay for their own meals?

A: No. The host of the bridal shower pays for the shower, not the guest. This means that if the shower is being held at a restaurant, a tea-room, or even a spa that the host must pay for the guests.

Don't despair though-have a luncheon, tea, or dessert at a restaurant to lessen the financial blow. Or host it at someone's house. Just don't ask guests to pay for the shower or pay for themselves a the shower.